People face numerous challenges and difficulties throughout life. Hence it may be crucial to develop a proper, systemic approach to coping with problems. Establishing resilience in order to overcome life difficulties may be the key to problem-solving. There are several steps that may contribute to the achievement of that goal. First, it may be necessary to view resilience not just as a method of dealing with adversity. Second, applying a positive attitude to the issues, which are impossible to change, may lower the amount of stress and decrease harm related to the issue (Neenan 178). It is also crucial to support the provided attitude with action. Viewing mistakes as learning opportunities is another way to develop and maintain resilience (Neenan 181). It may not only lead to a decrease in repetitive mistakes but also valuable knowledge and experience. Finally, self-belief may represent an important stage in resilience development. Setting goals and consistently achieving them may contribute to the appearance of an optimal balance between healthy self-esteem and the capability to acknowledge mistakes.
There is also a wide list of approaches to maintain resilience. ABC thinking is a considerable method, which may allow to adequately evaluate life experience and event in order to minimize psychological harm. A-C thinking links the facts and other people directly with the taken action (Neenan 162). B-C thinking implies that personal beliefs regarding the event have a significant influence on the subsequent actions (Neenan 162). Furthermore, developing and maintaining self-acceptance may be highly beneficial in some instances. Keeping a learning diary may help to preserve achieved progress. Moreover, systematic gathering of data related to the issue may be utilized in order to develop a personal approach to resilience. Talking and teaching about resilience may provide not only other people with valuable information but also grant comprehensive knowledge based on various perspectives. Diverse and even opposing opinions regarding the subject may develop a well-structured framework. Finally, setting and achieving goals is an inseparable part of resilience development. Such objectives should be achievable, rewarding, and concrete to properly serve the purpose.
Personally, I may be able to relate to most of these approaches and methods. There are numerous life examples of me acting in accordance with the resilience development framework and non-compliance with it. For example, I naturally tend to use the B-C thinking model. However, it is often complicated for me to understand the motivation behind actions taken with A-C thinking. Knowledge regarding ABC thinking may contribute to my assessment of other people’s feelings and emotions. Using mistakes as learning opportunities may be vital for both resilience development and life in general. I was once asked if I would erase my memories related to my mistakes and painful experiences. Even though it may be tempting to forget personal shameful actions, such memories are necessary to prevent similar mistakes in the future.
Psychological workouts made the most noticeable contribution to the development of my personal resilience. Overcoming public fear, lowered self-esteem, and unreasonable shame is required to lead an everyday life. It is also vital to understand that resilience does not provide a life-long effect and should be maintained constantly. Introducing a positive attitude in order to overcome a specific issue once does not provide immunity to the problem for the rest of the life. It is needed to constantly follow the above-mentioned steps and methods to obtain resilience and keep it for a long time.
Neenan, M. (2017). An overview of resilience. In Developing resilience: a cognitive-behavioural approach (pp. 177–183). Routledge.
Neenan, M. (2017). Maintaining resilience. In Developing resilience: a cognitive-behavioural approach (pp. 161–175). Routledge.